When people think of abusive relationships, they probably start thinking of a heterosexual couple where the man is just a very nasty person who physically harms his partner. But the fact is that anybody can be the victim of an abusive relationship – it doesn’t matter what their gender or sexuality is. What a lot of people also overlook is the fact that any kind of relationship can be abusive, be it between friends, family members, co-workers, classmates or literally any thing else, it’s not just couples. Any relationship where somebody is regularly lying to you, openly mistrusts you (with no cause), says things with the intention of harming you emotionally, manipulates you, tries to withhold information from you or who acts as if they are entitled to your time and attention (and information about your life) might well be abusive.
These sorts of things should raise some serious red flags, especially if any of the relationships in your life have several of these features. There is absolutely nothing wrong with raising concerns about these things with people and if you can’t, this is another worrying indicator – if there is anybody in your life with whom you have a relationship which you have identified as abusive, you should really try to get them out of your life as quickly as possible, or to tackle this issue head on. Lack of understanding of this means that some people allow abusive relationships to continue when they should not, so I wanted to write this blog post as a kind of PSA. I hope you never have to deal with anything like this.