The Art of Conversation

Posted on October 29, 2014 by Adam Randall
You know, for some people, it can be quite difficult to hold a conversation with others, especially if they don’t know the other person. This can lead to feelings of awkwardness, anxiety and sadness as well as making the person not really want to engage people in conversation very often. So, for today’s blog post I wanted to write about a handy tip which will help if you have any trouble of this kind.
    The trick is just to use a lot of words. If somebody says something and ‘That’s nice,’ will be an appropriate reply, don’t say that, instead say “Oh my! That sounds lovely. What an especially pleasant surprise that must have been for you” because it actually takes a lot longer to say. It works with anything. It’s also a skill that anybody who has written an essay before will have had past experience with: I’m sure everybody’s filled a whole paragraph with information about something which only required a single sentence.
    In fact, to give you a perfect example: this entire blog post could have just said “If you find it hard to talk to people, just use more words” but I managed to pan it out to this 220 word entry because I’m just so skilled at talking at great length about nothing at all.

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Yo-yo Teacher

Posted on October 27, 2014 by Adam Randall
Back in 2012 I was just a regular person who couldn’t use a yo-yo. I had always wanted to have a yo-yo and to know how to use one, but, whenever I got my hands on one, I was terrible at it. While I never stopped wanting to have my own yo-yo and to learn how to use it, I had begun to think that, maybe, I’d never be able to.
    But this all changed in the December of that year when I had a very lovely ‘Christmas’ day (I put that in quotation marks because it was actually a week or so before Christmas) with my friend Tülin. Among very many other nice things, one thing we did was pop into a toy shop and pick out a rather attractive green yo-yo (this was a Christmas present for me) which she then taught me how to use. I was extremely surprised (and extremely happy) when I found that I was able to use the yo-yo very easily and since then I always have it with me. Not only is yo-ing an extremely therapeutic action, it is also very fun.
    The years went by and that lovely green yo-yo broke (of course I didn’t throw it out though, it remains in my ‘special items’ tin) and so Tülin replaced it was a very attractive red yo-yo (which actually seems a bit sturdier). She’s gone now (moved far away) but, of course, I still have the yo-yo.
    Just the other day, I found myself heading out to meet my good friends Oscar, Chloe and Sophie and I brought my yo-yo along as well. This was a very pleasant surprise because I don’t get to see them enormously regularly and so I was very happy about getting the chance to do so. It just so happened that on that day I decided to yo the yo-yo while I was walking along with them and when we got into a very nice jazz bar, I was spending a few minutes untangling it. As soon as I had just sorted it out, Sophie took it from me.
    “I’ve never used one of these,” she said.
    “Well, don’t worry!” I said. “They’re very easy to use.”
    Sophie let go of the yo-yo and down it went, she moved her hand upward, but the yo-yo itself did not come back. That was exactly what happened to me before I was taught! She did it again and the same thing happened.
    “It doesn’t come back up,” she said sadly.
    “Hang on, give it to me for a second,” I said as I took it back. “Do it like this.”
    I was a little foolhardy there, because there wasn’t much room to be playing with a yo-yo and when it came back up I got very worried for a second that it was going to smash some glasses.
    “Phew! I thought I was going to smash those glasses. I better not do it again, but try and move your wrist like this.”
    I gave Sophie the yo-yo again and this time she was a success! She only managed to do it once, but she was still quite pleased.
    “Very good! You can always remember that as the happiest moment of your life,” I said, and smiled.
    And I was certainly very pleased. Not only was I seeing my friends for the first time in a while, but by teaching Sophie to use the yo-yo (albeit briefly) the events of that night are now directly linked to the events of the night nearly two years before, because without being given the yo-yo and taught myself, I’d never have been able to then teach Sophie how to do it! I love things being connected like that.
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Wish You Were Here

Posted on October 24, 2014 by Adam Randall
Currently, I don’t get to see much of my friends because they’ve moved away or are busy with work and so on. It’s quite sad and I miss them a lot. Lately, I always keep thinking I see people and it’s probably because I miss them.
    The other day, I thought I spotted Tülin at a nearby Tesco’s (which is silly since she lives over six hours away and would have no reason to be there). Today I thought I saw Rory MacLellan getting off of a bus, despite the fact that he is now in Scotland, just like Mairi, who I thought I saw in Bath recently. And on the subject of buses, I thought for a moment that I saw David Tubb on a bus recently, even though he’s not at all likely to be riding on a bus. Then of course, I also thought I saw Oscar Taylor-Kent and Chloe Ward in Corsham (at different times). There are probably other examples I’m forgetting too!
    I’m sure it’s a case of me seeing what I want to see. I always only think it for a fraction of a second before realising that it is almost completely impossible. I feel a bit like a dog waiting for its owners to come back, getting extremely excited every time it hears somebody walk past because it thinks they’re finally home. It’s a bit of a silly thing, but I felt it worth writing down nonetheless!

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Retroactive Significance

Posted on October 22, 2014 by Adam Randall
It’s interesting how events that seem to have no real significance while happening, suddenly gain a whole new layer of significance when remembered. That’s the case with today’s anecdote, which may initially seem to be nothing but a small interaction with friends.
    I had a long wait for the bus back to Corsham once after a day at Bath Spa University and so I was paying a very short visit to a couple of my friends on the way to the bus station. I was, and am, extremely fond of both of them so it was always exceedingly nice to spend time with them. I don’t actually remember the main part of my visit, but I remember what happened just before I left.
    I was in the hallway, about to leave when one of my friends stood in front of me with her arms outstretched. I didn’t understand why she was doing it and the confusion must have shown because she soon elaborated.
    “Hug,” she said.
    “Ah, I see!” I replied and then we hugged.
    “It’s so nice to hug you,” she said.
    “Well, that’s good,” I said.
    “How come you never hug me?” said the other friend.
    “Well,” I said to him, “that’s because you never ask!”
    And before he could reply, my other friend said “Oh, look out! You’re going to get hugged!”
    “No, stop, don’t touch me,” he said in mock-absolute disgust.
    So, of course, I didn’t hug him, but I didn’t think he was actually asking me to anyway.
    We all had a nice laugh about that and then it was time to go.
    “Bye bye!” I said as I went through the door. “Nice to see you both!”
    And now for the cause of the retroactive significance: that was the last time I ever spent time with them together. Don’t get me wrong, I still spend time with both of them whenever I can, but it’s the last time I saw them at the same time. You see, the ball was already rolling for the pair of them to have a rather unpleasant falling out. It’s such a terrible shame because in reflection, I do believe I could have prevented it and saved them both a great deal of upset. It is, at least, a regret that I can learn from.

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Violent Retribution

Posted on October 20, 2014 by Adam Randall

Back in 2009, my friend Ben Wood and I were involved in a little bit of a misunderstanding. I don’t want to divulge too many details, but there was an ill-considered comment here, a hurt feeling there and we ended up inadvertently upsetting somebody (the folly of youth!). The upset person then told a friend of theirs, who, one break time at school, wanted to have a ‘word’ with me and Ben.

We went over to see him, and the first thing he did was grab us both by the neck and lift us into the air intimidatingly. He was quite impressively strong, you see.

“Hello,” I said and smiled, trying to keep to situation as pleasant as possible.

“This isn’t funny!” he shouted, which is a shame, because I wasn’t trying to be funny. He then shouted at us for a while about how we had upset somebody, and it made me feel pretty bad.

“So you are going to apologise,” he said, at the end.

“Well, yes, of course,” I said, and perhaps I should have left it there, but I carried on. “Will we get an apology from you afterwards, if we do? I mean, yes, it was probably quite stressful for them, but it could be argued that it’s also quite stressful for Ben and I to be violently grabbed and shouted at too.”

He looked at me and narrowed his eyes. At this point I got quite a bit of bad luck, because I suddenly had quite a tingle in my throat. I needed to cough. But because of the way he was holding me, I’d end up coughing right into his face and that would seem awfully rude. I thought for a second about explaining my predicament, but I couldn’t hold it in any longer and I coughed right in his face.

Before I could say anything he spat right into my eye, which was a little unpleasant. He then lifted us a little higher into the air and threw us hard onto the ground, which was quite painful. Ben and I exchanged a few “Well, that wasn’t very nice” words, and then got on with our days.

So I just wanted to share that; the story of, perhaps, the most intense conflict I’ve ever faced. And there were no lasting bad feeling, either (in case you were worried!) We made up completely with the person whose feelings we had hurt and I bumped into the other person just the other day and we had a lovely little chat.

EDIT: I have been reminded that, after being spat on and thrown on the floor, I actually got quite angry and said to the other person that I’d make a fake Bebo account of them. A rather silly thing to say (again, an example of how immature we can be when young) but, of course, I never actually did that.

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Colour-Blindness

Posted on October 17, 2014 by Adam Randall
People tend to have a lot of questions for me when I tell them that I’m colour-blind (that is, if they even believe me) so as it seems to be quite interesting to some people, I thought I would make a blog entry about colour-blindness and the few (very minor) ways in which it affects me.
    Right at the start of the day, what’s one of the first things you do? Well, you put on a pair of socks of course, how hard can that be? Well, pretty hard actually because it’s really hard for me to tell which socks are a pair and which ones are odd. I used to have a nice way of avoiding this problem: I’d only buy beige socks. If all my socks were beige (which just happens to be my favourite colour) I could never put on an odd pair. I had this idea in 2008 and I kept it up for quite a while, but in 2012, for some very strange reason, beige socks became very rare and now I can never find any. In fact, I wrote about this sock trouble a little once before. Sometimes I’m told by people that I’m wearing odd socks, and these are people who know why I’m wearing odd socks, so I can’t help but wonder what exactly it is they want me to do with that piece of information.
    Another thing is that I find some DVDs so hard to use. Occasionally the cursor on the menu is a very similar colour to the background, and so I can sometimes get completely lost when trying to navigate around DVDs that have large menus. So, when this happens I’ll just ask somebody else to do it for me. You’d think I could just mentally determine how many clicks are needed, but often the DVD player will miss a button press and, if that did happen I’d have no way of knowing.
    The biggest problem comes when trying to create creating visual art. As I’m sure all regular readers will know, I keep a webcomic which is mostly photography based but I occasionally need to illustrate things. I use the computer programme Paint because when you hover over one of the colours, it tells you what colour it is. This is enormously helpful. The problem is, sometimes the colour I want isn’t there, so then I write ‘Blue’ into Google Images (yes, that’s right, Paint doesn’t have blue as a default), copy and paste something from there and then use the ‘pipette’ tool to extract the colour. I know what colours things are, but I can’t identify different colours easily..
    And that’s about it really. I don’t like it when people use colour as the main way to describe things, though, I understand that that is sometimes the easiest way. For example when people don’t know somebody they might say “that brown haired person” to describe them I might struggle to understand who they mean. If I really try, I can usually identify a colour when I’m looking at it, but it’ll take a little while, and I can’t really do it well from memory, plus, unless I make the conscious effort to identify the colour of something, I’ll just never register it. They’re all minor things, but I know some people are interested in this kind of thing, so, I hope this blog entry, too, was interesting.

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Bullying Documentary

Posted on October 15, 2014 by Adam Randall
I’m not really an expert video maker, no, I’m no David Tubb, so I don’t post video content very often. But, having said that, I do enjoy making videos and have very fond memories of a short film that I made along with my friend George Moore in GCSE Media Studies classes.
    For whatever reason, I had to make a little documentary on the subject of bullying in schools, which, of course, is a very serious subject, but my documentary ended up being not very serious at all. It’s a great shame that I don’t seem to have the file for it anymore as it might be something I’d like to post (I’m sure others would find it entertaining) but as things are, I’ll tell you about what was included.
    I introduced the piece and explained the forms bullying could take and so on, but I remember I had a big smile on my face the entire time and I sounded like a wonderful time (and, really, I was!) I ended this segment by saying that I wanted to show you “an example of bullying” just in case nobody knew about it, I suppose.
    The camera was then on George, who was leaning peacefully against a wall. He looks around and reaches into his pocket because, clearly, he has just received a text message. He pulls out his mobile phone and we cut to a close up of its screen and it seems he’s had the rather sad misfortune of receiving a text message that says, simply “I hate you” looking at the sender details, it was very clearly sent by me as well.
    The next bit is truly lost forever. I spoke recently about a science teacher that I liked very much and so, of course, back then I was keen to involve him in the project. I filmed an interview with him where I asked lots of questions about bullying (both in and outside of school) and he had a lot of interesting things to say. My Media teacher told me it was far too long, so I had to cut it down. So I edited it to the following:
    “Have you ever come across bullying before?” I asked, as the interviewer.
    “Umm,” he says, which was originally followed by a long story, but I cut it so that he just said “yes” and that was it. My Media teacher didn’t like it and, sadly, it had to be cut entirely.
    The penultimate scene was me outside, talking to the camera again.
    “Bullying can take many forms. There are the usual things like name calling and then there’s also…”
    But then I was interrupted when somebody ran over, pushed me onto the floor, reached into my pocket, and stole my wallet. The camera followed him as he waked away. It went into slow motion and sinister music played as he made his escape. After this, it was back to me, talking inside once again, and I gave a kind of summary (which I don’t really remember) which was followed by the credits, which were accompanied by more sinister music.
    I don’t know if I can really do it justice with words, but George and I certainly found it quite funny, as did most people we showed it too. We got a B grade for it in the end too, which was surpising, and nice. It’s quite a shame that I don’t have a copy anymore, but then, it’s exactly the kind of thing which people don’t take too much care of. Perhaps this should be a cautionary tale! Be sure to cherish your projects from your schools days.

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Trolls

Posted on October 13, 2014 by Adam Randall
Back in 2009, I always had a great deal of fun in my Science classes. Not only did I share a class with my good friends Hayley, Sarah and Laura, but I also had a rather wonderful teacher named Mr. Curtis (who might be writing an entry for this blog at some point in the future).
    As well as being very friendly and entertaining, I also had a little joke going with him where I would say that he looked like a troll and make references to trolls. This may sound a little malicious (and, indeed, is not something I would do today) but it was all in good fun and he happily went along with it. It wasn’t just me, either, another person in the class, who I was quite fond of, also went along with these ‘troll’ jokes. One thing we’d do is, when asking a questions, we’d fit ‘troll’ into words that it naturally hid within such as con-TROLL or, words that it would less naturally fit within like ou-TROLL-put. Also, we’d regularly have to make Powerpoint presentations about various areas of science, and as well as sneaking in pictures of trolls, I remember one time making an animation to so how protons and electrons worked, using lots of pictures of different bald men to represent the different things (Mr. Curtis was bald).
    Again, this may sound like I was a troublesome student, but it was all done with the utmost fondness. One time we were tasked with writing a short story which had to explain how certain chemical reactions work. In it, I wrote about a scientist called Professor Ticrus (an obvious anagram of Curtis) who created a machine to make particles big enough for people to see and it went wrong and lots of people were killed. To this day, I like to make references to Professor Ticrus in my fiction writing every now and again. I was also very pleased when, two years after leaving his class, I bumped into him and he told me that he still kept a copy of that story at his house and read it every so often for a laugh.
    I remember quite a lot from that class, a lot of the experiments and tasks we did, and I think that he is a wonderful example of a good teacher. Not only do I remember his classes, but I cherish the memories and think of them as some of the extra happy times in life. I think that is exactly what a good teacher should achieve.

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Moral Dilemma

Posted on October 10, 2014 by Adam Randall
It’s a little sad, I think, that at a lot of bus stops, the idea of queuing and of ‘first come first serve’ is completely forgotten. I can’t help but feel a little disappointed when I’ve been waiting for a bus for over an hour, then somebody arrives at the stop five minutes before it’s there and then get on before me and sit in my favourite seat. Because of this, I have a personal rule to always let people on before me if I know they were there first.
    But just the other day, I found my morals challenged at the bus station. I came in, and right away the bus was in the bay, waiting for passengers and there quite a few of them waiting to get on. But when the bus doors opened, nobody got on. I looked at the bus driver, he did a “get on” gesture (which everybody else must have missed) and then I looked at the waiting commuters who almost seemed like they hadn’t noticed that the bus had arrived. What could I do? Do I get on right away and look like some rude impatient person? Do I continue this dangerous game of chicken? This was a double decker bus, so by getting on first I get the seat at the front at the top (the ‘golden’ seat you could call it). I looked at the driver again, he was confused, obviously wondering why nobody getting on. Was there some moral crisis in everybody’s head? Eventually I bit the bullet and got right on. As I sat in the best seat on the bus, I wondered if I’d done the right thing. I reasoned that, had I not done so, the bus driver might have left and nobody would have got on. But this is something I can never know. What a strange event.

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The Most Important Thing

Posted on October 8, 2014 by Adam Randall
Over the last few weeks I’ve been starting to arrange my plans for Christmas time. I know you may say that it’s a little early to be doing that, but as soon as it starts to get a little bit colder after summer, I get very excited about the idea that the most wonderful time of the year is just around the corner.
    But, anyway, essentially my plans will involve me having three (possibly four) other ‘Christmas’ days with friends, before the main actual Christmas day. One will be at a delightful restaurant named The Hungry Horse not too far away from my home, and will be had with all of my closest friends from Corsham (who I otherwise don’t get to see too often), one will be at the Nando’s in Bath (a place I have been to for many special occasions) and will be had with all the friends I made at Bath Spa University (and a couple of assorted others who don’t fit into either category) and finally I should hopefully get a chance to see my friends David Tubb and Naomi Brennan too. That’s pretty much every person who has had a significant impact on my life.
    So, I was just getting to bed the other day, when I started to think about how nice it would be if all of that went smoothly. If everyone actually turned out to be available for these events, and I had three days were I saw all of the people I wanted to just before the incredible Christmas Eve/Christmas Day/Boxing Day trilogy. That would probably be the best week of my life. I shouldn’t get my hopes up, of course, because doubtlessly at least one person will end up not making it and it won’t go perfectly, so I shouldn’t build it up so that I will be disappointed, but it will almost certainly still be very nice even if I end up only seeing a few people. It’s a nice reminder though, that the people you know are the most important things you can have in your life. I just couldn’t get to sleep with the excitement of thinking of it all.

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